Friday, February 26, 2010

Of Relationship and interests

Cometh the long weekend and off we go to the beautiful forests of Nilgiris. Holi coupled with the weekend is the perfect excuse. Add to it the fact that both Aman and me have been travelling for a while and have not been able to spend as much time together as we would have liked to. So this is the perfect opportunity to escape.

It’s said that couples should cultivate common interests to enhance their relationship. I am really not sure about the cultivating part. As we never had too. We both love travelling and we both are spontaneous with our travels. We love eating out and experimenting with various cuisines. And once in a while we both get down to cooking together. We love the water and swimming is another thing we do together. We love shopping. So we head out together and then go to respective sections only to meet again at the trail rooms. Life looks all set.

We haven’t made efforts to imbibe each others interests, but we have found a way around it. Like in his free time he watches TV and I stick to my laptop. So we sit together but do different things. He is loves playing and my only association with sports is watching it. So I watch when he plays.

We both read, he likes economics, business and strategy, and I stick to fiction. But atleast we go pick books together.

I am sure there are people out there who make a lot of effort to pick up a hobby just for the sake of their partner. We didn’t, coz we didn’t have to. We had our common interests and we had our not so common interests. And we like it that way. For once, I really don’t understand how someone can read all possible business magazines each month and he really doesn’t understand how I can be fixated with Farmville. But so be it.

It might be important for couples to enjoy stuff together. But it’s equally important to have some varied interests as well. Now if 2 people were just the same won’t 1 be wasted?

20 comments:

Monika said...

travelling and driving is which ties us together too apart from many more such interests but just like u said we have a diff set of hobbies too him sports etc mine net, cooking etc :D

a balance between me time and couple time keeps the marriage sane and going I guess

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Find Answers said...

Yes, I too don't believe in cultivating common interests. There doesn't need to be one. Even persons with different interests can maintain an excellent inbound attachment just by encouraging each other's interests.

Nice post by the way.

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~anu~ said...

how was the trip?

indianhomemaker said...

Lovely post :) I agree with you about sitting together and doing our own thing :)

"Like in his free time he watches TV and I stick to my laptop." is like how we are... I feel it is natural for couples to have some common interests, but it is kind of impossible that everything is shared. We even have my friends who are not his friends, and his friends who aren't my friends - though we do meet together also, sometimes, mostly I go out with my bunch of friends on my own.

Lovely post!

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