Friday, October 10, 2008

Married to a Workaholic

You don’t become a workaholic by choice. You are forced to become one. The phenomenon is happening right under my nose and sadly I am unable to put a speed breaker here. Long hours are something most of us have adjusted to. It’s but a part of work and no eyebrows are raised. But what Aman is doing is a lot more. Its not just about long hours. And the sad part is that this is not his choice. Now before you send me sympathy messages let me clarify that it’s not as if he is being made to work at gun point. It’s the circle of “responsibility, ownership and recognition”.

When you dream of meetings, presentations and revenues there has to be something amiss. When you have your phone ringing day in and day out there has to something incorrect their. When even on a Sunday you can’t help but check your mail first thing in the morning then its time to stop and think. When every lunch and dinner with wife and friends is interrupted with calls its time to take a break.
Isn’t it important to say no to work at least sometimes??

Aman – I hope you read this and get the message L

25 comments:

Kanupriya said...

Well, it totally depends upon the individual’s nature and his / her job. There are jobs which are demanding and there are jobs which are not. It is important to say no but at the same time its that sense of responsibility, circumstances and ownership which stops one from saying no, its that sense of accountability which makes you take those calls even on a Sunday or in the mid of a holiday. Howmuchsoever we speak of work-life balance but oh…that real reality!

Cynic in Wonderland said...

yup you get dragged into this. there was this very nice quote i had read which said "what if you dont have a life, at least you have a lifestyle". not sustainable

neha said...

I can understand di.i hav seen it...its pathetic at times...but u shud be patient,as i think there's something kept in there for both of u after all this..so chill

::: LiVe uR MoMeNt HaPpiLy ::: said...

hey..i just feel one should really keep the work away and be with the love..I say this to my girl million times to make her feel that am there for her, near her. even then when am at work. I call her to say that i miss her so much.. its just how people take it! anyways..same situation is not going to persist..things will change.. and u ll rock very soooooooon ! wishes !

Santosh said...

Isn’t it important to say no to work at least sometimes?? - yes Iya it's important but it's always just a 10 mins break in a 90 mins soccer game.:)

Gourav said...

A wise man said," choose a proffession which you love, you will not have to work in your lifetime."

Masood said...

All interesting comments above, Iya. Not planning on responding?

Iya said...

@ Kanu – Well that’s exactly what I said, it’s the circle of “responsibility, ownership and recognition”.

@ Cynic in Wonderland – nice quote and true – not sustainable…

@ Neha – I am not complaining too much u see..

@ Live ur moment happily – its not so simple to keep work away. My last boss very correctly said that there is not work life balance, life is work…

@ Santosh – but don’t you think that 10 minute break is of utmost importance??

@ Gaurav – very true… but where do you find a profession that not only you but your family also loves??

@ Masood – yes boss I intended to reply !!!

Rohini said...

I wonder why it's always the men who are workaholics. I mean, there are exceptions but I have found women to be far more balanced as a rule, even before they get married/ have kids...

Pinku said...

hmmm so did Aman get the message??

but seriously slow down guys, the world actually wont come crashing down if u were to chill out a bit. Infact it will give you a chance to get back to the job with renewed energy.

Believe me I too am in a high pressure job and taking those small breaks really help.

Iya said...

@ Rohini - Women are born multitaskers so even in the middle of a carzy day they are able to steal that 1 call and that means a lot..sadly men are not..and this is not a sexist comment..this is on the basis of what i have obsorved and what i myself do...

@ Pinku - very valid point... and its not that i dont know this but in the hustle bustle of work some how people most important to u take a back seat..

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