Saturday, May 23, 2009

And I don’t know what to do..

(You might want to skip this post, its depressing)

I think I am loosing my mind. I haven’t been this angry and irritated in months. Someone very close and very important to me (and before you jump to conclusions, it’s not AMAN) is driving me up the wall. Reasoning and logic are not getting me anywhere with her. I have never seen her so adamant before. It’s like banging my head against a rock.
I have tried being soft, being conversationalist. I have tried talking to her. I have had zillion discussions. But nothing seems to work.

She is just not ready to understand. She is hearing but not listening. And she is not talking. She is speaking but not talking. There has to be a reason but she insists there is none. If she doesn’t have a reason why can she just agree to what I am saying.

I am unable to take my mind off all this. I tried thinking of the nicer stuff, getting immersed in work and then IPL. But this is like a constant thought knocking my head off. Last week has been so heavy. It’s like letting the wrong happen. And watching it.


17 comments:

mindspace said...

I come, i read, i go.
dunno what to say. maybe give her some time and she will be ok or at least come out of this zone n u will be able to reach her better.
maybe, coz i dont know the reason.

but in any case, you getting angry and irritated will not solve anything.. so be calm n relaxed..

see i end up saying something.. i guess it should help.

Monika said...

oops iya dont get dpressed as tara has rightly said if ur getting depressed wont help anyways...

cheer up and provide silent support if that is what she wants.. eventually she will come around

take care of urself and her

hugs... and ya go take that break u were talking abt, much needed for u

Imp's Mom said...

awww.... hey give her some time, some space... be her silent support...let her know u are there... she needs you to be calm, composed and relaxed...don't get hyper or upset...

I knw, easy for us to say but tough to follow, try it... will be easy on all of you...

*hugs*

Indyeah said...

dont know what to say except that just let it be for now...it'll all be fine in its own time....

sometimes loved ones just need silence and nothing else....

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))

Aparna said...

I don't know who you are talking about but I have felt like this countless number of times while talking to my teenage daughter...It is sooo frustrating trying to reason with her.I get upset and angry,which makes her even more stubborn.
Leaving her alone at times is perhaps the best thing I can do for her.Cheers.

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

???

Cynic in Wonderland said...

take off and get some space. mental and phsycial. works. been doing that coz am at more or less the same sort of place right now

Indian Homemaker said...

Maybe give it time. Just let it be for a while. I find such situations tough to handle too. Even if it is impossible to do anything else until this sorts out, there seems nothing you can do anyway, so might as well take a complete break... Hugs -IHM

Reflections said...

Do not show tht u r frustrated abt the situation...infact try reverse psychology.

R u sure u want to know wht it is????
Seriously...be careful abt wht u wish for.

Be cool!!!!
ACT totally normal...continue as before.
Confuse the person a bit;-D

Preeti said...

if she is saying there is nothing , perhaps there is nothing , just some thing ordinary that even she dont realise is bothering her ...talk to her once more , normally , like a casual talk ....then leave her alone for a while ...may be you can also pretend to be busy for couple of weeks , dont spend much time with her ...i dont say ignore her but just cut down ...


I hope this will help ..but then we all behave weird at one point or other ...

Preeti said...

yea m in banaglore !! we must meet on one of the rainy day :-)...which part of banaglore u r in ..I live near Indira Nagar ..

Pinku said...

u have had a tough time....feel for u..

but u have to live ur life and she hers...let her be...she will have to take her own decisions and live with the outcome...

Iya said...

@ Tara – ya u r right.. getting angry has never helped anyone and I obviously cant be an exception

@ Monika – Thanks for the hugs, they work.. I have decided to be silent for a week. Will hope things get better..

@ Imps Mom – thanks dear, I am trying

@ Indyeah – thanks for the hugs. maybe u r right, I know she needs me..

Iya said...

@ Aparna – Hi, welcome to my world. Somewhere deep within I know that leaving her alone is the option but I am unable to do…

@ Hobo - ???

@ Cyn – I so want to take off.. I wish I cud…

@ IHM – thanks for the hugs. its like seeing someone who means so much to u go the wrong way.. its not easy to just be a spectator

Iya said...

@ Reflections – you know I have realized that indeed she doesn’t have a reason, its just one of her whims that’s making me go crazy…

@ Preeti – I have tried talking to her.. have been doing that all this while.. and I am so hoping she will come around

@ Pinku – had it been anyone else I wud have maybe done, but not with her.. our lives are interlinked!!!

Solilo said...

Iya, If it is your mother or sister then all you can do is to try and try again and then give it some time.

For all others, let it be. You have tried enough. Don't show that it is affecting you. Sometimes that works.

Mampi said...

by now i hope it is all sorted out and hope things are better at that end